Family Strong Project

Do you ever feel like your spouse loves you, but it's a lazy love? Only showing love when his own love tank is full? Or he only does the bare minimum--just enough to keep things going, but you feel like you're mostly running the show solo? It's highly frustrating and feels unfair doesn't it?

But before we gather up his things and send him off to couch-ville, I want us to really check in. Here are 3 ways we can move from Lazy Love to Faithful Love. 

How many of us use our devices to avoid things we need to address or take action on? The stress in life can be so intense that we just self-soothe with a few hours of scrolling.

For some, attachment to  phones isn't the issue. There are lots of unhealthy coping strategies out there, but for now let's focus on the issue of turning to our devices to self-soothe, rather than turning to God about our deepest desires. 

How long have you been married? When did you meet? Were you highschool sweethearts?

I met my husband in Kindergarten and I just loved him! 

My love continued to grow and within two years I told my 2nd grade teacher, "I am going to marry Joel Zehnder." 

Our friendship continued to grow and in the 6th grade we finally made it official when Joel asked me to be his girlfriend! I was over the moon! Convinced we would never break up and would for sure grow old together…

And I will be honest, this is the hardest thing I have ever done. Fully surrendering. But I trust my God, I trust his design for marriage, and I trust this man that I vowed "for better or worse; in sickness and in health; for richer or poorer."

And guess what ladies?...

What if we loved our spouse and all their imperfections 100%? What if we could simply stop getting frustrated and annoyed with them, and start accepting the things that make us crazy?! 

When I tell my husband "You're driving me crazy," he responds "Crazy in love!" 🤣🙄